Checking In On Those Around You

How often do we hear this: “I had no idea they were struggling.” or “I wish they had reached out.”?

The truth is, mental health struggles are often invisible. Many people suffering from depression, anxiety, or suicidal thoughts mask their pain, making it difficult for others to recognize their distress. Research in psychology shows that individuals experiencing emotional distress often hesitate to reach out due to fear of burdening others, stigma, or simply not knowing how to put their feelings into words.

While we can’t always prevent every crisis, we can make a difference by regularly checking in on those around us. Evidence-based approaches, such as active listening, validation, and nonjudgmental support, have been shown to encourage openness. If you notice a friend acting differently—withdrawn, irritable, or just off—reach out. If they say they’re “okay,” don’t stop there. Sometimes, people need multiple invitations before they feel safe enough to open up.

A simple “I’ve noticed you seem a little different lately, and I just want you to know I’m here if you ever need to talk” can be a lifeline. Connection is one of the strongest protective factors against mental health crises. You don’t have to fix their problems—you just have to show up.